Blow A Kiss To The Queen In The Mirror!

Everything in life goes through cycles, and the same can be said for society and pop culture. Right now we are living in a time where it is okay to be a bigger woman, a curvy lady, and voluptuous diva. Thanks to body positive role models on large and small platforms women are finally learning to accept and love the skin that we are in. This has been a long time coming, and I for one, as a curvy woman, am happy to live in this beautiful era. It was not long-ago woman were body shamed and the idea of beautiful was a rail thin model who looked miserable. 

There are still body shamers out in the world, trolling the internet and hiding behind their computers, laptops and smart phones. However now there is a fierce army of strong curvy loving and supporting men and women all ready to knock them off their hate filled platforms.

What lies deeper than all of this is that, we as women are finally coming to terms with the fact that is it okay to love ourselves JUST AS WE ARE! Let me say it one more time for the ladies in the back -- It is okay to love yourself just as you are! Right here in this moment. As you are reading this. As you are breathing. Where ever you are, regardless of your shape, color, size, hair type, … you are phenomenal and worthy of love and loving yourself first and foremost. 

Loving ourselves is the first step towards being the best version of ourselves. We are always rushing to take care of others, to accomplish more at work, to fold one more load of laundry, to bead one more item to give away or make money. We are naturally born to give and care for others. We are focused on accomplishing our goals to make our families and communities proud. Yet we rarely take time out to take care of ourselves. Doing so on our birthday’s, mother’s day and other such holidays is great, but it is not enough. We need to make sure that we are taking time weekly; and even daily to take care of ourselves mentally, emotionally and physically. 


 If you follow me on social media you know that I am always ‘working on my fitness,’ yet I am proud of my curves and do not want them to go away. I have learned that it is important for us as women to take care of our physical health so we can live long and healthy lives. Working out also is an amazing stress reliever. Those post workout endorphins are powerful mood enhancers. There are plenty of days, sometimes entire weeks, when I have to force myself to workout. However, in the end I am always happy I did it. I not only feel physically good but my mind, heart and spirit feel better as well. 

I have spent the majority of my early years on this earth focusing on my weight and allowing it to define my beauty and self-worth. Sadly, a majority of those years I wore a fake smile for the world while I was internally cringing every time I passed a mirror, window or storefront. Through lots of love, laughter, tears, self-reflection, mediation and prayers I have learned to love the person I see in the mirror. Even more than that I love the mind, heart and soul that resides inside of this physical body. Don’t get me wrong I have my bad days, but that’s a part of the ebb and flow of life. The key is to keep moving forward every day. Every day that we wake up we are a given a chance to start over, a fresh slate. Do you have goals to reach? Great! Not sure what those goals are yet? That is great too! We cannot wait to achieve something to celebrate or even love ourselves! Every day when you wake up, blow a kiss to the beautiful, intelligent, strong Queen in the mirror looking back at you.